Brother objects to 30-year-old sister storing 200 lbs of live crabs in his bathtub for her bizarrely-themed wedding: 'She’s furious, calling me selfish and accusing me of sabotaging her wedding'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Jan 12, 2025 12:00 PM EST

There's a lot about weddings that people get upset about or—dare I say it… crabby? When you're planning a wedding, there are also a lot of shellfish people out there who would seek to ruin your perfect day, filling it with their own ideas and ideals about how things should be done.

Nevertheless, there's nothing selfish about refusing to store 200 lbs of shellfish; there are certain things that are just too big of an ask, and this is one of them. But that didn't stop this bride from trying to get her brother to store 200 lbs of crab in his bathtub to keep them fresh for her big crab-themed wedding. The very real crabs were supposed to serve the dual purpose of both bauble and banquet, which really makes no sense and brings several health concerns to mind…

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  • Still, when he objected, his upset sister sought to turn their family to her side, with their parents weighing in on the situation in her favor. Sounds like a strange thing to have the parents siding with his sister over, but if there's anything to be said about the family dynamics at play here, it's probably that her family, and even her parents, have learned to placate her instead of dealing with her entitled tirades.

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    "AITA for refusing to let my sister store 200 pounds of live crabs in my bathtub for her 'crab-themed wedding'?"

    The problem started yesterday when she called me (32M) in a complete meltdown because her "crab supplier" (apparently this is a thing) fell through, and now she's managed to source 200 pounds of live crabs last minute. However, she has nowhere to store them until the big day. Her genius solution? My bathtub.
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    She says I "owe her" because I live alone and "don't even take baths." (True, but I do shower in there and prefer not to share it with angry sea creatures.) I told her no way, and now she's furious, calling me selfish and accusing me of sabotaging her wedding.
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    Her reasoning is that the crabs are "integral to the ambiance" of the reception-apparently, they're going to be part of the decorations (gross), and later boiled as part of the dinner. She insists the bathroom is "perfect" because it has a drain, and all I'd have to do is "hose it down" afterward.
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    I told her this was insane. First, crabs move-they're not going to stay neatly in the tub. Second, I'm not dealing with the smell of seawater and crab for the next week. Third, what happens. if one escapes and claws its way under the fridge or something? But now she's rallying the family against me, saying I'm being unsupportive and "don't understand how stressful planning a wedding is." Even my dad is telling me to "just do it for a few days" to keep the peace.
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    For the record, I think her wedding sounds like a logistical nightmare, but I've been polite about it. I just don't think my bathroom should turn into a crab holding tank because she can't rent a cooler like a normal person. AITA?
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    Popular_Okra3126 • 8h ago NTA. Let your dad or the other coercive family members take on the crabs. ADD: Water temp, salinity, and oxygen wouldn't be right. They will di anyway
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    . Utter_cockwomble • 8h ago This is the most Maryland thing I've ever read. Even if y'all aren't from Maryland.
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    Eastern_Condition863 7h ago • NTA. You can't "store" salt water living beings in fresh water. Not even fresh water, but treated with chemicals. They will di before her weding anyway then you will have to deal with the god awful stench of 200 de d crabs that she will undoubtedly leave to you to dispose of. Tell your sister that other family members have offered to help then send her to everyone who told you to "just do it."
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    Conwaydawg • 7h ago Another Al-Generated post YTA
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    asafeplaceofrest • 7h ago NTA if she can afford 200 pounds of live crabs, she can afford proper storage until the moment they are brought out for the wedding. And if your tub is full, you won't be able to get a shower in time to go to the wedding, so you'll just have to decline the invitation. What's this with crab decorations? Sounds insane. I dunno I'd want an explanation of - how she is going to do this. Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
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    Careless-Image-885 .7h ago NTA. Don't back down. Tell the family members to step up and help...especially dear old dad. Go low contact until the fiasco is over.
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    So my sister (30F) is getting married. next weekend, and for reasons I don't entirely understand, the theme of her wedding is crabs. Like, actual crabs. She's obsessed with them-they're on the invitations, the table centerpieces, even her dress has little crab embroidery. Fine, whatever, her wedding, her choice.
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